My advice would be to handle things responsibly with your spouse, and be true to yourself, and be in communication with your spouse before you jump into another relationship. Don’t let it get to the point where you’re acting out and not dealing with what you’re doing. Keep everything in service to the relationship you’re currently in. I mean, you can’t sit down and tell your husband or wife that you think you’re gay without things getting messy. The chances are good that it’s going to be messy and people may be upset.