Drew did not admit—even to himself—that he might be gay until he was thirty-six. He gradually came to realize it over a period of several years. He married Susan in 1989, and they had two children. Drew grew up with a physically abusive mother, and he married a girl just like mom. Susan and Drew separated after eleven years of marriage because of her physical and mental abuse. While they were still married, Drew started having sex with men. After leaving his wife, he had a six-year relationship with Karl. Drew works for a financial company and lives with his children. He wants to be in a long-term, committed relationship.